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Life often presents us with challenges that seem to steal our focus and somehow manages to stifle our growth. We are often confronted with what feels like massive, overwhelming tests that come at us from everywhere. We are seldom prepared for these events as they come when we least expect. This is certainly how it can feel and our reactions are not always what we would want in hindsight.

For some, this seems to be the reoccurring theme in life. When we are faced with adversity and difficult conditions, we often meet these lessons with opposition. We sometimes feel as though we are victims of life but are we? Are we not actually victims of our reaction to life’s events?

Life is going to happen, with or without our consent. We can face life head on and use the events to grow and learn from and recognize these events as not part of us and not own them or make them our own or alternatively, we can meet life events with frustration, anger, create a very difficult lesson and then make these events a part of us. We decide to own them and make them a part of our identity.

With the latter scenario, how will this ever change something that has already happened? What is the benefit of the attitude we have decided to have?

We have a choice on how we deal with adversity. It is also up to us how long we choose to hang on to the events that have taken place around us. How much control are you willing to give to these uncontrollable events?

This is not to say that we are unaffected by what takes place even if we do not fight the event. This does not mean that we are not emotionally affected by life’s events nor does it mean that we are cold or unemotional in any way. What it does mean is that life happens and we have options in what ways we react. There are always choices to be made. We are not at the mercy of these events as many believe. We are always at the helm of our reactions and our emotions. We alone dictate how we will allow ourselves to be affected by each and every event in life.

Undesirable event do happen and they are not by choice but we have choices as to how we will allow ourselves to be affected and we make those choices whether those decisions are conscious or not. If we choose to analyse our decisions and recognize our part in the process, we learn how to adjust to life’s events rather than becoming victims of them. Being familiar with our past reactions and decision helps us to learn to control the next reaction or decision that we will have to make.

Learning to listen to the quite inner guide as it will help us through the process and understanding our reactions and taking control can have lasting effects. These will provide us with the momentum and courage to withstand any pressure that comes from our lessons in life. Stop, process and then react through controlled decisions. Stand tall in the face of adversity by recognizing the lesson, seeing it as not yours to own and moving forward with that knowledge.

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