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Life often presents us with challenges that seem to steal our focus and somehow manage to stifle our growth or so we think. We are often confronted with what feels like massive, overwhelming tests that come at us from all sides. We are seldom prepared for these events as they come when we least expect them. This is most certainly how it can feel, and our reactions are not always what we want, in hindsight.

For some, this seems to be the reoccurring theme in life. When we are faced with adversity and difficult conditions, we often meet these lessons with opposition. We sometimes feel as though we are victims of life, but are we? Are we not actually victims of our reaction to life’s events?

Life is going to happen, with or without our consent. We can face life head on and use the events to grow and learn. It is important to recognize these events as not part of us and we cannot own them or make them our own. Far too often, we may meet life’s events with frustration, anger, create a very difficult lesson and feeling as though these lessons are a part of us. We decide to own the events instead of seeing them as a lesson to grow.

With the latter scenario, how will these reactions change what has transpired? What is the benefit of the attitude we have decided to have?

We have a choice on how we deal with adversity. It is also up to us how long we choose to hang on to the events. How much control are you willing to give to these uncontrollable events?

This is not to say that we are unaffected by what takes place even if we do not fight the event. This does not mean that we are not emotionally affected by life’s events, nor does it mean that we are cold or unemotional in any way. What it does mean is that life happens, and we have options as to what way we react. There are always choices to be made. We are not at the mercy of these events as many believe. We are always at the helm of our reactions and our emotions. We alone dictate how we will allow ourselves to be affected by each and every event in life.

Undesirable events do happen, and they are not by choice, but we have choices as to how we will allow ourselves to be affected. We make those choices whether those decisions are conscious or not. If we choose to analyse our decisions and recognize our part in the process, we learn how to adjust to life’s events rather than becoming victims to them. Being familiar with our past reactions and decision helps us to learn to stop reaction and make clear decisions on how to move forward.

Learning to listen to that quite inner guide as it will help us through the process and understanding our reactions and taking control can have lasting effects. These will provide us with the momentum and courage to withstand any pressure that comes from our lessons in life. Stop, process, and then move forward after a controlled decisions. Stand tall in the face of adversity by recognizing the lesson, seeing it as not a part of you but simply a lesson then move forward with that knowledge.

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