DUTY AND OBLIGATION

There are some actions in life that we are obligated to carry out. We must have a job in order to provide essentials.  We need to look after our health to enjoy good health. We have an obligation to ourselves first and foremost, but we also have obligations to our elders, family, boss, co-workers, friends and the list goes on, in varying degrees. There are things we must do to keep the flow of growth and opportunities in place.

We have a duty to our family, especially to our children as they slowly move forward into their own lives.  They learn from our example. We are likely reflected in the actions of our children in some form or another.  Because of this, we must set an example that is worthy to be carried forward. 

Being that good example comes easier if we have respected our obligation to ourself as we mature. It is important to foster positivity into our daily lives. It is essential to formulate an action plan that includes our wellbeing. We do have obligations beyond ourselves, but we must take care of ourselves to be of assistance to others. You cannot feed someone from an empty cupboard. 

Duty and Obligation

Is our attitude one that promotes or allows happiness, or are we caught up in the challenges and noise of life?

How can we shift our focus away from the noise to accommodate harmony within?

We have the ultimate tool required to initial change.  We can change our attitude, first and foremost.  A slight adjustment can help us go from chaos to calm.  Attitude is perhaps the most important ingredient in making life more manageable, if not enjoyable. 

Life can and will be difficult at times.  We cannot change what life throws our way, but we can change the way we look at these lessons.  In our mind, we can change the word “difficulties” and use the word “lessons”.  That in itself is the first step.  We can learn to turn our reactions to actions.  Reactions are uncontrolled.  Actions are purposeful and productive.

It takes little effort to be a victim, but it comes at a high price of stress and lack of enjoyment.  Go from victim to victor over your life experience.  It does take work, much effort, in fact initially.  We are creatures of habit.  Break the habit and exercise the “finding the positive” muscle.  The more you exercise it, the stronger it becomes.

If we look for hatred in this world, we will find much hatred.  If we look for compassion in this world, compassion will show up.

A positive attitude is not going to change the world around you (but it might); a positive attitude will change the world within and make the world around you much more enjoyable.  A life of peace and appreciation is within our grasp and much of what we might want for ourselves is available if we wish to work for it. 

Believe in ourselves; push ourselves a little. Make it our duty and obligation to have peace within under any of life’s conditions.  We are strong and resilient. With determination, we can do anything we want to help ourselves through any of life’s situations. We are always learning and becoming stronger if we exercise what we need to.

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HOLD ON TO GRIEF

Hold on to Grief

When we lose someone close to us, it can be hard to move forward. Our “normal” no longer exists. The calendar days may pass by, but the emotional pain can remain. There is no right way or length of time to grieve but there can be emotionally healthier choices to be made.

Some will show no signs of grief possibly from denial or avoidance while others can be frozen in grief.  Some hold on to grief and the pain they are experiencing because it makes them feel as though, somehow, they are staying close to their lost loved one.

Grieving is not a linear process and can be just as much physical as it is emotional.  Be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to mourn your loss. 

The mourning process is a time to feel and process our loss but to also adjust to our new “normal” which moves forward without the physical presence of our lost loved one.  The five steps of grief are denial (hope), anger (pointing blame), bargaining (you can’t change places), depression (processing the loss) and acceptance (moving forward in a new way).  The lines between these stages are not defined and can be blurred regularly.

Some individuals can become stuck in any stage of grief. It is hard to be rational when we are engulfed in grief.  We can find ourselves asking questions such as, “Was it something I did?”, “What could I have done to change things?”, “Someone is to blame?”, “Why am I being punished?”, “Why wasn’t it me?” and the list goes on.

Some may push their pain on to others as they do not want to suffer alone, consciously or unconsciously. They take their anger out on the ones they love the most or put up walls to keep others away.

It’s hard to realize, in our depression, that those around us are also affected. We can be very hard on the ones we love the most. They too are grieving their own loss too. Their loss may be connected to your loved one directly or it may be their having to watch you suffering and your loss of participation in their lives. 

Most times, there are no specific reasons for what happens in life.  We can be sideswiped by events.  These experiences can seem very unfair.  On the other hand, we may be expecting the loss, knowing that it is coming but when it actually happens, you are not prepared though you thought you would be.

Accept that we cannot change the past, but we can certainly learn from the experiences.

No matter what the circumstances around the event, we must make our way through the grieving process. Take the time you need to experience and process but do not live in the past.  Live in the moment.

It is sad to let go and move forward without those you have created this life with. Do not hold on to grief. How wonderful that you have had the opportunity to enjoy and experience life with them, no matter what that length of time may have been.  Celebrate what they shared with you. Thank them for the journey you shared but continue with yours moving forward, living in their honour.  Would they not want this?

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CREATE PEACE

Create Peace

We ask ourselves, “Can waging war deter aggression?”

If we look back in history, often aggression worsens conditions in many ways. 

What is the physical, emotional, mental and material cost of war for both sides?

Without concentrating on these losses already mentioned, generational grudges, hatred and further violence are usually the aftermath of war. 

Attacks on foreign soil and retaliation will increase, and if finance is high on your radar, worldwide trade and commerce will suffer.

All possibilities must be weighed out and in some cases no matter what we do to create peace, peace seems to evade us. 

We all have our limits, and we all must make choices. 

No one can truly speak personally for you.

Let’s all strive for personal peace.  Let’s work to create peace in each of our relationships. Peace demands give and take. You will find the solution for your own inner peace if you take the time to truly want peace.  You have what it takes.  Let’s hope that our leaders do too!

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