WHAT WE CAN CONTROL AND WHAT WE CANNOT

WHAT WE CAN CONTROL AND WHAT WE CANNOT

There are things in life that are completely out of your control.  They often happen when you are least expecting them.  You might experience a car accident, loss of your job, or on the other side of the coin, get a promotion, receive confirmation that your cancer is in remission and most importantly experiencing peace when you least expected it.

Many of us want control over everything but more often than not, we are at the mercy of circumstance.

Life happens. Situations change. We can blame ourselves for every event (but why?) and take ownership of things we do not own. Perhaps others are involved and our intentions were deeply wanting to assist, for example, but they had no impact. Have we not all blamed ourselves for someone passing-over because we might have been able to do just one more thing different to change the situation? That is grief. Recognize it as such. Sometimes we can give it our best and things still move in a manner that is anything but what we had hoped for.

Step back and look with your eyes and not your heart. Many life situations are out of our hands. Each of these events and hardships have lessons for us, however.  Is that lesson “to experience and let go”?

Learning the difference between what we can control and what we cannot control can be a difficult lesson. Do your best. Acknowledge you are human. Acceptance can be a beautiful thing when appropriate and bring needed relief.

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REACTIONS IN THE MOMENT

At times, we speak out of turn or say things that even before we finish the sentence, we wish we had not said.

Likely on some level, the words needed to be said. Perhaps, it was the best way, at least at that moment, to get your point across.  Often, when we leave things unsaid for an extended period, when we eventually convey our wishes or feelings, they are said in a less than desirable fashion.

Reactions in the Moment

Whatever has been said cannot be unsaid, and you must accept the repercussions of your actions or words.  Clarifying or explaining ourselves is a good idea and an apology is essential.

We can’t change what has been said or done in the past so, if for example, our words were cutting due to holding on to unshared feelings, there is a valuable lesson in this event.  Do not let feelings or preferences go unsaid.  It is much better to deal with them in a calm and controlled situation than to express them in the heat of the moment and then regret your expression or actions.

Reactions in the moment happen occasionally to everyone.  If, however, your reactions are continually uncontrolled perhaps a deeper dive into why is warranted.  Be honest with yourself, accept responsibility for your actions and make the necessary changes where changes are required, so that the next time you are confronted with events or the urge to react, you can take control of your actions in the moment and deal with them in a meaningful and productive manner.

Change what you can, speak up when necessary and then let go of the past. If the needed change does not come when you request it and it is essential, walk away.  Remove yourself from the situation if there is no hope for change. Be proactive in what you can control, particularly reactions in the moment!

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Holm Astrology also offers individual intuitive readings or group parties. For more information, visit us at www.holmastrology.com/intuitive-readings  

Are you interested in learning Astrology? Our spring courses have now begun. Watch for announcements for our fall registrations. Visit www.holmastrology.com/astrology-classes for course details.

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DESTROYER OF PEACE

We cannot emphasize enough the impact of our attitude on our life’s experience.  Life happens (both hard and heart-filled lessons) no exceptions.  Challenging lessons present themselves from time to time, and we can’t ignore them or persuade them to just disappear.  They are part of our life, and we must learn the lesson and deal with them accordingly. This is how we grow and mature.

We live in our own corner of the world within our family unit. This family unit may be blood related or a chosen family of friends.  We are influenced by what goes on around us and for some individuals, this influence can be overwhelming at times.  Then on top of what we are surrounded by, we have our own internal struggles. Some individuals cannot admit to these struggles or talk openly about them and others are quite open to sharing their emotional struggles. 

Destroyer of Peace

Our minds race back and forth each day making judgements and analyzing all that we are experiencing.  It would be interesting to see how many contradictory thoughts we experience in a day, never mind a year or a lifetime. 

Our mind will tell us whatever is convenient and productive to its thinking in the moment. There is constant and continual mental dialog. For many of us, because our mind has control over us, for every action and thought there is also a reaction. This is why we should continually remind ourselves that we are not our thoughts. We are the spectators listening to them. As a result, we can choose which thoughts to act upon and which ones we can allow to pass us by without owning them or reacting to them.

We can be swept away by life events from time to time. We tire because we are human, and humans make mistakes. These mistakes, however, are valuable learning tools.  We cannot change things once they have happened (such as our reactions) but we can regain control once we recognize our reaction and move forward accordingly. The lesson is to keep going and each time an event happens, your reactions will be less and less until one day, you can stop the reaction before it takes place.  

Life is in your hands; it always has been. 

Reaction, instead of controlled response, is a destroyer of peace. Will you start taking responsibility? Don’t be swept away by your mind’s chatter. Be the spectator to its babbling. Choose what to own and what to acknowledge and release.

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If you have comments, questions or would like to commission a chart, please send us a message via www.holmastrology.com/contact-us or holmastrology@gmail.com 

Visit www.holmastrology.com for more information on Astrology and information on the Astrological charts we offer.

Holm Astrology also offers individual intuitive readings or group parties. For more information, visit us at www.holmastrology.com/intuitive-readings  

Are you interested in learning Astrology? Our fall courses are now underway. Watch for announcements in late winter for registration for our spring courses. Visit www.holmastrology.com/astrology-classes for course details.

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