WHAT WE CAN CONTROL AND WHAT WE CANNOT

WHAT WE CAN CONTROL AND WHAT WE CANNOT

There are things in life that are completely out of your control.  They often happen when you are least expecting them.  You might experience a car accident, loss of your job, or on the other side of the coin, get a promotion, receive confirmation that your cancer is in remission and most importantly experiencing peace when you least expected it.

Many of us want control over everything but more often than not, we are at the mercy of circumstance.

Life happens. Situations change. We can blame ourselves for every event (but why?) and take ownership of things we do not own. Perhaps others are involved and our intentions were deeply wanting to assist, for example, but they had no impact. Have we not all blamed ourselves for someone passing-over because we might have been able to do just one more thing different to change the situation? That is grief. Recognize it as such. Sometimes we can give it our best and things still move in a manner that is anything but what we had hoped for.

Step back and look with your eyes and not your heart. Many life situations are out of our hands. Each of these events and hardships have lessons for us, however.  Is that lesson “to experience and let go”?

Learning the difference between what we can control and what we cannot control can be a difficult lesson. Do your best. Acknowledge you are human. Acceptance can be a beautiful thing when appropriate and bring needed relief.

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REACTIONS IN THE MOMENT

At times, we speak out of turn or say things that even before we finish the sentence, we wish we had not said.

Likely on some level, the words needed to be said. Perhaps, it was the best way, at least at that moment, to get your point across.  Often, when we leave things unsaid for an extended period, when we eventually convey our wishes or feelings, they are said in a less than desirable fashion.

Reactions in the Moment

Whatever has been said cannot be unsaid, and you must accept the repercussions of your actions or words.  Clarifying or explaining ourselves is a good idea and an apology is essential.

We can’t change what has been said or done in the past so, if for example, our words were cutting due to holding on to unshared feelings, there is a valuable lesson in this event.  Do not let feelings or preferences go unsaid.  It is much better to deal with them in a calm and controlled situation than to express them in the heat of the moment and then regret your expression or actions.

Reactions in the moment happen occasionally to everyone.  If, however, your reactions are continually uncontrolled perhaps a deeper dive into why is warranted.  Be honest with yourself, accept responsibility for your actions and make the necessary changes where changes are required, so that the next time you are confronted with events or the urge to react, you can take control of your actions in the moment and deal with them in a meaningful and productive manner.

Change what you can, speak up when necessary and then let go of the past. If the needed change does not come when you request it and it is essential, walk away.  Remove yourself from the situation if there is no hope for change. Be proactive in what you can control, particularly reactions in the moment!

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Visit www.holmastrology.com for more information on Astrology and information on the Astrological charts we offer.

Holm Astrology also offers individual intuitive readings or group parties. For more information, visit us at www.holmastrology.com/intuitive-readings  

Are you interested in learning Astrology? Our spring courses have now begun. Watch for announcements for our fall registrations. Visit www.holmastrology.com/astrology-classes for course details.

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STARTS WITH ME

This post has nothing to do with me personally; it is about you starting with you. 

Starts With Me

You hold the key to your personal success story.  You are the one you can count on and the one to guide you through anything.  There is no one better equipped to handle any situation.  Even if you seek personal assistance, others plant a seed (one from a perspective you may not have considered), but it will be you that makes the decisions and takes the action to nurture that seed.  No one else controls your destiny even when it appears that way.

If someone has control over your decision making, it means that you have agreed to let that person take the reins.  Even if you are against what they are insisting upon, and you feel as though you have no say in the matter, it is you that has decided you have no say. 

If someone else rules over you then perhaps you need to make a stand or step away.  If you are afraid of that individual, perhaps you should remove yourself from their presences. Obtain assistance, if need be, to feel safe.

Make no mistake, you are in control. If you don’t believe this, it might be time to have a second look at what your mind is telling you and what you have decided to adhere too. 

If it is your mind controlling you (which it is), remind yourself that you are not a slave to your thoughts. You are the ones listening to the thoughts. Your thoughts are fickle.  They will adapt to whatever is appropriate for the moment.  Take quitting smoking for example.  Pay attention to the absurd excuses your mind will give you to make your think it is okay to just have one cigarette.

Be strong in whatever you want to commit to. Ignore that chatter and excuses your thoughts will throw at you. You are in control of your life if you decide to take control.  Reminder yourself, “it starts with me”!

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If you have comments, questions or would like to commission a chart, please send us a message via www.holmastrology.com/contact-us or holmastrology@gmail.com 

Visit www.holmastrology.com for more information on Astrology and information on the Astrological charts we offer.

Holm Astrology also offers individual intuitive readings or group parties. For more information, visit us at www.holmastrology.com/intuitive-readings  

Are you interested in learning Astrology? Our fall courses are now underway. Watch for announcements in late winter for registration for our spring courses. Visit www.holmastrology.com/astrology-classes for course details.

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